26 Breaking up
How to deal with Breaking Up
Reyna Gil; Jocelyn Kozak; Anthony Sportiello; and Molly Adams
Introduction to Break Ups
Break ups are a tough thing that almost everyone will go through at least once in their life. It doesn’t matter if you are the one breaking up with your partner or the one receiving the bad news, it can still be really difficult for both parties. There are so many factors that contribute to breakups. In this section, you will learn about the causes of a break up, how to break up with someone, how to deal with a break up, and how to take care of yourself after a break up.
Causes of a Break Up
Letting go of someone is hard, even if it is for all the right reasons. It can be easy to second guess yourself or let others influence your decisions. During a relationship, you may notice some red flags. There can be abuse in a relationship, which can include physical, mental, and emotional. Signs of abuse may include but are not limited to: controlling your finances, limiting who you can hang out with, hitting, verbal abuse, controlling what you eat, and much more. Another huge red flag is toxicity. Some examples of a toxic relationship are cheating, fighting, lack of communication, holding back feelings, shadiness, lying, etc. One major thing you should focus on is whether you’re happy in the relationship or not. If you notice that you’re not happy, then it’s probably best if you leave. Your partner should not be your main source of happiness, but they should be a part of it.
How to Break Up with Someone
If you decide breaking up with your significant other is the best choice for you, here are some helpful tips and lines that might help you.
You have many options on how you can break up with someone. You can do it over text, in person, have someone else do it for you, or you can just straight up block them on everything. The best way you can break up with someone is in person. It’s more mature and less dramatic. The most important thing to keep in mind while you’re breaking up with someone is to be honest. It will hurt their feelings, but most people appreciate the honesty.
As scary as it seems, remember why you’re doing it. Keep it honest and clear. Just tell them how you feel. You have the choice to block them as an easier way to move on. It may seem hard because you still care about that person, but putting them out of sight will help you move on from them.
How to Deal With a Break Up
It’s never easy losing someone, especially when you’re not ready to give up. Whatever the reason may be that the relationship didn’t work out- no matter how big or small, it can still be hurtful to lose a person so close to you. While it can be tempting to keep them on social media, you are only hurting yourself. Seeing their day-to-day lives can be extremely harmful to your mental health. Keeping somebody out of sight will make you think less about them which is what you ultimately want. Another tip is to give yourself time to accept that you’ve lost the person. Trying to move on right away isn’t necessarily the healthiest thing to do. You need time to focus on who you are as a person and learn how to be independent again. The main priority after a break up is yourself. It can be hard to take care of yourself, but you learn to move on.
Self Care
While it is easier said than done, it is important to make sure you take care of yourself no matter if you are breaking up with someone or being broken up with. After losing somebody so close to you, it’s easy to want to cry your eyes out, push down all your feelings, or any other unhealthy coping mechanism. It is important to take care of yourself, mentally, and physically. This may include hygiene, eating right, drinking enough water, getting enough sleep, and allowing yourself to release your emotions. What’s important is that you take the time to accept the loss at the end of the relationship. You can’t live in the cycle of regret and missing the person and wishing they were back because that’s not reality. What is important is that you take time to focus on the things that make you truly happy. This may include finding new hobbies and interests. At the end of the day, a break up is a growing opportunity to better yourself. This process is all about you and what you want out of it.
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Conclusion
In conclusion, it’s important to understand the causes of a break up, how to break up with someone, how to deal with a break up, and how to take care of yourself after a break up. All of the advice can help you when you’re going through a break up or if you’re planning on breaking up with someone.
Here are a list of resources in case you need help dealing with a break up:
Break Up Hotline: By calling 1-855-683-5433, you can help in so many ways regarding a break up. You could call this number because you need someone to talk to, you’re debating on breaking up with someone, you just got broken up with, you need a confidence booster, you might get yourself in a cheating situation, you might want your ex back, and etc. For more information about the break up hotline, click this link.
PVCC Counseling: The counselors at PVCC are here to help you with anything you might need. Although the counselors at PVCC do not conduct therapy, they are here to help you learn more about yourself and figure out coping strategies. For more information about PVCC’s counseling, click this link.
Domestic Violence Hotline: If you or anyone you know are in a domestic violence relationship, there is a hotline that you can call to seek help, which is 1-800-799-SAFE (7233). For more information about the domestic violence hotline, click this link.